If your sleeping partner routinely disturbs your sleep, not only might it put a strain on your relationship, it may be detrimental to your health! Fortunately, most disturbances have reasonable solutions - once you've identified the problem. Best of all, both of you will sleep better!
Nearly forty-five percent of adults snore on occasion, and about 25 percent snore habitually. It’s a problem that can affect both the snorer and the partner. It’s more predominant in people who are overweight. Exercise and weight loss can make quite a difference. It’s also exacerbated by alcohol use or relaxants taken near bedtime, so avoidance of these can lead to improvement. Sleeping on one’s back also contributes to the problem. A somewhat softer mattress and a carefully fitted pillow designed to encourage a better sleeping posture have helped many. Actively dealing with allergies, colds and other respiratory problems may also help reduce snoring. There are more invasive remedies including dental appliances that hold open the airways and various surgeries to correct defects in the affected areas of the collapsed air passage.*
Excessive tossing and turning
An overly active sleeper certainly can cause angst for couples. While there are some sleep disorders that feature periodic movements (and are treatable), most of the time it’s the result of discomfort. Re-evaluation of the mattress or the addition of a comfort layer might help. Head, neck or shoulder discomfort may indicate the wrong pillow. A larger mattress provides more room and can greatly reduce disturbances between couples, as can a mattress that better isolates motion between sleepers—such as one with separate air chambers.
While the ideal room temperature for sleep is in the mid sixties, individual preferences can lead to conflict and disturbed sleep. Fortunately, there are several remedies. There are new mattress and bedding fabrics that promote more even temperature balance during the night, and bedding that features a dual weight design—heavier on one side, lighter on the other—perfect for couples with different temperature needs. Many couples have their own private blankets (this solves the blanket stealing syndrome, too!). Ceiling or portable fans can solve the problem as well.
Most sleep specialists strongly advise against these activities in bed, but if one insists while the other is trying to sleep, compromise is in order. Keep the volumes down, set the sleep timer, and use a small clip-on light for computer use or reading. For the sleeper, there are many very comfortable eye masks and ear plugs that can block light and sound.
Too Soft/Too Firm
An adjustable firmness mattress, like the SLEEP NUMBER® bed, features adjustability on both sides, allowing each person to select their ideal firmness level. So even if you don’t agree on how firm or soft your mattress should be, you don’t have to compromise your individual comfort level. And you can change it anytime you like.
Here’s to a better night’s sleep—for both of you!
Until we got our Sleep Number bed, we were NEVER in agreement. I wanted firm, my partner wanted soft... and we were waking up with aches and pains. We no longer have to worry.
*Snoring accompanied by a cessation of breathing for prolonged periods of time could be an indication of a more serious issue, such as sleep apnea, and should be discussed with your physician.