Sleep Styles And Relationships: Sleep styles—and what they say about your relationship
Sleeping with another person beside you in bed can sometimes feel like an 8-hour dance. According to Evany Thomas, author of The Secret Language of Sleep, and body language expert Patti Wood, your body movements reveal a lot about you and your relationship with your partner.
If you share a bed, you may already be aware of the many different sleeping positions that exist. Here, we’re going to take a peek at some of the most common sleeping habits among couples and what they mean:
- The Spooners. You know the pose—one knee up, "spooning" around your partner. If you're one of these couples, you typically have a wholesome, traditional outlook on your relationship. Spooners generally like comfortable things and are supportive.
- The Cliffhangers. Do you and your sleep partner cling to the opposite sides of the bed? If so, you might be Cliffhangers. Two interpretations of this sleep style: In some instances, it could mean you’re practical—you like your own sleep space. Or, in other cases, it could be that you're the "opposites attract" kind of couple - you appreciate the differences in each other.
- The Leg Huggers. Do you and your partner sleep apart, but touch legs during the night? You're probably Leg Huggers. According to Wood, this sleep style is common among long-married couples who like to sleep apart, but want to connect. It can also be a position couples take after a fight. It says "I’m mad at you, but I still love you and want to wake up on a good note."
In her book, Thomas also decodes individual sleep styles and reveals the best sleep matches.
Keep in mind, when it comes to getting better sleep as a couple, your bed can make a big difference. For example, maybe you like your mattress soft and he likes it a bit more firm (9 out of 10 couples disagree on mattress firmness). Conundrum, right? Remember: All beds aren’t created equal. The SLEEP NUMBER® bed's DualAir™ technology eliminates the need to compromise as it's adjustable on each side—so you can both get the sleep you deserve.
- The Free-Faller. These folks sleep on their stomachs with their hands up around the pillow with their head to the side. If you’re a free-faller, you tend to be outgoing, but also fairly thin-skinned and you shy away from criticism. Sleeps best with: The Starfish. You sleep you on your stomach with your hands around the pillow. She sleeps on her back. Classic case of opposites that attract.
- The Starfish. Do you lie on your back with both hands behind your head and around the pillow? If yes, you’re probably a "Starfish." These folks are often good listeners and look to help, when they can. Overall, they tend to be very agreeable sleep partners. Sleeps best with: The Wanderer. Hey, someone has to sleep with the Wanderer, right?
- The Wanderer: You start sleeping in one area, and wake up in a completely different direction, possibly under a different number of sheets and blankets as well. Sleeps best with: A companion that won't roam around the bed like she does.
To learn more about sleep positions read The Secret Language of Sleep by Evany Thomas.